WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES by: ARGOV, SHERRY Price:  THB 495.00     US$ 15.63 Availability: -     Product Detail     256 pages (PAPERBACK)     Dimension (wxh): 140 x 215     Publisher: ADAMS MEDIA     ISBN: 9781580627566     Shipping Weight: 0.34 kg     Avg. Customer Review:(453)     Available at Asia Books:       HO, EM, PN, SD, TN, TS, WT

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Sherry Argov's Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a "yes woman" who routinely sacrifices herself. The author provides compelling answers to the tough questions women often ask: Why are men so romantic in the beginning and why do they change? Why do men take nice girls for granted? Why does a man respect a woman when she stands up for herself? Full of much-needed advice, hilarious real-life relationship scenarios, "she says/he thinks" tables, and the author's unique "Attraction Principles," Why Men Love Bitches gives you bottom-line answers. It helps you know who you are, stand your ground, and relate to men on a whole new level. Once you've discovered the feisty attitude men find so magnetic, you'll not only increase the romantic chemistry in the relationship-you'll gain your man's love and respect with far less effort.

so true  ,07/09/2008 this book is so true in many ways, it was a great refresher for those who have been in a long term and now single again.and for the new to dating group.remember you are number one not the guy...keep your life...it is ok to be a bit tough in your ways...respect.....

Why men love bitches  ,26/03/2008 This is a fantastic book and I will keep it for when my daughter gets older and starts dating. I think every women who feels like they are being taken advantage of by a man should get this book and read it. They should then keep it close at hand and use it often. I have experienced many of these situations and wish I would have had this book when I encountered them. The outcome would have been completely different. I would say this is a must have for anyone who has teenage girls who are starting to date. It will remind them that their feelings and self esteem are important and never let a man treat you less than a dreamgirl. The writer does this in a way that makes you laugh, but also makes you think about each situation from a new point of view.

This book will change the way you date!  ,14/08/2007 This is great book. Every woman should read it. You will be surprised how iformative this book is! But you must read another new besteller which I highly recommend - "How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You" by Mandy Simons These books are fascinating!

Excellent read  ,09/08/2007 I wasn't too sure about this book when I ordered it, but I was very pleasently surprised by its contents. I have recommended it to a couple of my "nice" girl friends.

A review from a guy got hurt from his girl  ,23/02/2008 I am a guy, I read this book and I do find this book very helpful. however I would like to share my experience... my girl and I broke up after 4 years of a relationship... the first three years, we had the most romantic un-conditional love relation... we both was so in love to a point if I call sky is Yellow she would agree to me, and if she call the sky red I would agree the same... both of us used to do everything to make each other happy... she knows what I dont like therefore she never come close doing anything I dont like... yes... I was the same as well by all means for three years... and I like to mention that she was the first girl in my life and so I am for her! and suddenly (during the last year in our relationship) she started to change... it feels like she read this BOOK! or someone brain-wash her thinking... like someone started to tell her to ignore me or to start being stubborn because they can see how much in love at me she was.... she started to be stubborn and suddenly she started to show me that I am a second in her life... not as important as before... her friends and her work is what important!!!!! I dont mind that, but not to the point that she start to disrespect me! we both where never ever being exposed to this kind of thinking or behavior in a relationship (at least not me) because if you never had any experience or being exposed to such ideas you will never do it or think about it... and yes, it worked for her so well that I start chasing her!!!! and she becoming more and more stubborn... not to mention the way she started taking a great use of me... I started to complain why she changed... but no answer!!! so we started to fight and argue all time to a point she also got sick of me after one year of suffering, I decided to move on... yes I left her with her new attitude.... did I mention she asked me back (after one month), begging me to give her

every women in a relationship must read this......  ,24/06/2007 I absolutely loved this book. it was laugh-out-loud funny with great advice on how to hold your own in a relationship. i passed this book on to someone that desperately needed the advice from this book. hopefully it works for her as much as it has for me.

So there you have it!  ,15/10/2007 During a conversation, a friend of mine told me about how her long time best-friend was having "dating" disasters! We both came to the conclusion that perhaps a dating book may help out! So we purchased this book and I decided to read it first to ensure we would not "insult or hurt" her feelings... and... This book made me laugh (to the point of tears at times), kept my attention (I could not put it down) and offered sound advice (confirmed by male friends)! It was obvious the research was well documented because I selected numerous males (both friends and co-workers) and suggested a topic of: how they would respond OR what they expected, to a scenario this book gave advice about and received a 100% correct response. One guy even made the comment that HE likes to be the LION and go after the woman he is interested in...IF she is too nice, too available and esp too needy OR if she chases him, HUGE turn-off! Basically he is looking for a B*@&#!!! So there you have it! We are keeping our fingers crossed that she enjoys this book as much as we did and honestly, I would read it again just for the humor!!

Well, let's see . . .  ,24/06/2007 Off the rip, this book gets one star because it's funny. Even if nothing in it had any value, I would've read it to the end anyway, because it has character and a fresh look at "take care of you, and the relationship will come on its own." And that's the message she's trying to send. I was already married when I read this book, but I picked it up and enjoyed it because the title caught my eye. Some of what she says is good advice. Don't be clingy to anyone but yourself, yadda yadda. Have a life outside of him, yadda yadda. From an ethical standpoint, I found some of this stuff hard to swallow. Dumb like a fox? That's sneaky and, in my eyes, unethical. So read the book, but don't be afraid to throw out anything that seems stupid or wrong to you. It's good if you can wade through the . . . ah . . . bad stuff, and see what's good advice and what's plain wrong, but I don't think anyone should take everything in here to heart and try to apply it to every relationship. If there were half stars, I would've rated this a 3.5 instead of a 3.

"IT'S MY BIBLE"  ,15/09/2008 I LOVE THIS BOOK! I READ IT AT LEAST 10x AND CONTINUE USING for REFERENCE.Argov points out some really important things that a lot of women forget once they are really into a someone. They forget to love themselves. If you have never read this book it's a must have. I live by Argov's advices, and most of the advices worked in my personal experiences.

A great Investment with fast results!  ,09/05/2008 Now when i mean great , i am talking about really great. This book was the best I have ever read in my life. Sherry teaches you the simple things you can do. With every chapter, I tried this and the results were amazing. I lent my friend this and she wants a copy to keep for reference. This book i will definately recommend for single women or even women in a relationship who wants to hold their relationship. Its great. I'll give it 6 stars. Yes thats how great it is. The techniques used are remarkable. It's all about being a bitch. Now being a bitch is not being bad. Its being nice but you are letting them know you have a life, and you are living your life,they have to make time for you not the other way around. Too many times we women change our lives trying to incorporate men into it, we cancel plans just for them. This is a big NO. Do not cancel your plans and abide by their every rules. You cant always be available for them. And thats the trick. Its so simple i never thought that would change mens behaviour but it did. Now i have men calling me and tyring to fit in to my life. How amazing is that! Belive me i think evey woman should have this book.But you wont understand fully what I am telling you until you read this yourself.Go ahead, i encourage you to take the challenge ! and Best of luck!! Nirmala Bissoon

She's Right On Target!  ,07/02/2008 Have you ever noticed that they guys you are not romantically interested in follow you around like lost puppy dogs, but the ones you want run like the wind? You know why? You act very differently toward them. You don't give much thought to the one and other you're all starry eyed over. This book is funny and right on target. My friends and I have read this book and are now stating a discussion group. If you're interested in joining, feel free to contact me.

Should be required reading for girls over 18......  ,24/09/2008 Basic training in relationship self-respect for women, wrapped in humor. Recommend it for all women, as well as "Why Men Marry Bitches.." Good refresher for those of us widowed or divorced, as well.

Best dating book I have read so far  ,25/10/2007 I absoulutely loved this book!!! Its relaxed tone and sarcastic sense of humor makes it very easy and entertaining to read. There are several issues that I would like to comment in depth: 1. It's really easy for you to actually learn a lot from it, because the author provides many tips with examples of specific actions that will help you achieve specific results. For example, Argov suggest that a woman who recently started dating a man should remain mysterious and a little unavailable from time to time, without giving the impression of not being interested in him. But the author is really effective in reinforcing her tip by providing very clear examples like the following (this is NOT a direct quote, but a similar idea to the examples in the book): "If you recently started dating someone, and on a given Friday you were hoping to see him at night, but he hasn't called to set a date, then make your on plans for the evening (don't wait until the very last minute to make other plans, hoping he might call) and if he calls at 8:30 pm asking to see you, nicely tell him that you already made plans (do not reschedule in order to see him), do not provide details about what your plans are, and let him know that you are free to see him on Saturday night instead". According to the author, this type of behavior lets a man know that you have your own life, that you are not available 24/7 for him, and you remain mysterious because you don't provide too many details about your life to someone you don't know that well yet. I love her technique because her tips are reinforced by examples of many different situations that occur in most relationships. 2. The book is nothing about playing games (and I respectfully disagree from other reviewers' opinions about this one). From the beginning of the book, the author establishes her general point of view. A woman should not put her life aside in order to spend all her time with a man. She should be herself, love her

A women's guide to permanently disappointing relationships  ,14/05/2008 The problem with this book is that the author has written it from her own perspective - looking at her photo, she is a reasonably attractive woman, who could afford to play the games she suggests in her book. But to any but the extremely attractive, whose beauty may offset an ugly personality for a while, this advice will guarantee either a permanent state of singleness, or unhappy relationships based on manipulation and exploitation. 40 years of feminist misandry has ensured that the western world is well oversupplied with b**ches, who have ruined the chances of normal relationships for countless normal men and women, and the last thing any responsible person should be doing is encouraging the formation of more. These tactics will chase away the nice guy you may chance to meet, and will guarantee that you end up with the male equivalent of the b**ch, the jerk, as these men are far more likely to put up with what they see as just a difficult personality for physical gratification. And one can't really blame them - books like these make a woman's personality so unlikeable, that there's nothing to like about her anymore but her body. But when that goes too, the b**ch has nothing... To all the non-b**ches who are reading this, please don't let this ignorant 'advice' destroy just that feminine spirit which most appeals to the non-jerks. I cannot think of a single man I know in a long-term relationship whose partner would qualify as a b**ch. On the other hand, the b**ches I know are the perennial singles, except for a brief period in their 20s when their bodies compensated for their personalities.

How to catch and keep a man (seriously)  ,02/05/2008 Sherry Argov freely admits that she uses the word "bitch" as a tongue-in-cheek way to grab your attention. She describes a bitch as a woman who is confident, independent and self-reliant, traits that men find sexy, attractive and intriguing. Argov portrays "good girls" as available, overly nice, accommodating and needy - characteristics men find off-putting and boring. Had this book been written 20 years ago, it would have been cutting edge, but you've probably heard the core of Argov's advice before (much of it is reminiscent of asking why a man would want a cow if he could get milk for free), from your mother and grandmother. She's just wrapped it in new rhetoric with a cute flair. Although her basic premise - men like independent, confident women with an "edge" - rings true enough, it's barely enough to fill an entire book. Argov disguises this sleight of hand with clever writing, witty one-liners, scattered "attraction principles," humorous stories, relatable examples, large type and a lot of repetition. If you don't find the whole idea a little passé, you'll have a good time. getAbstract recommends that you read this book in snippets whenever you need a chuckle or a shot of self-confidence as you play the catch-and-keep-a-man game. Of course, real women don't play games - as Argov would be the first to tell you.

SOOOOOO TRUE  ,24/05/2007 This book is very good. It has alot of valid points about women and what many of us need to adjust to make our images stronger and our hearts not as open to breakage. This book was entertaining,and informative. Take control of who you are and what you want out of life. Be a "Bitch" so to speak.

Nice May Get You "Miss Congeniality"  ,25/03/2008 But it won't help much in relationships.... Author Of Black Women Deserve Better

Great Book  ,11/09/2008 This is a great book. Alot of the things mentioned in this book are common sense but there are alot of good tips that make sense. This book explains everything you need to know to understand why men love bitches.

VERY GOOD!!!!  ,03/10/2007 This book was funny and very true. Bottom line-when you treat men like crap, they treat you better. I don't think its for everyone though, some people are just too nice and probally wont be able to handle some of the advice that the author gives. This isn't a bible, just a guide and a very good guide at that.

Why I didn't read it before?  ,18/06/2008 I wonder how many relationships (and self-esteem) I could have saved in my life if I had read this book before... This book is full of so many good points that it should be a required reading to all women, of any age. We always forget that we should think about ourselves first... making our first and biggest mistake! This book can REALLY help you to keep the man you love BY YOUR SIDE! After reading it, I gave this book to my 18 year old daughter, she has passed it on to her friends... and we all have benefited from the advices... regardless of our 26 years age gap!. I just started reading it again!

Now I know why those men dumped me  ,03/08/2008 I was going to start off saying I wish I had read this book sooner, before committing the nice girl mistakes in my past two relationships. But, if I hadn't gone through what I had gone through, I would have said the book's advice was crap - of course nice girls win. Which guy has not said he likes the girl-next-door type? But now I know why the relationships went downhill the moment I went from independent woman to needy girlfriend. I gave up my needs and let my happiness and schedule revolve around the man. I now solemnly swear to be happy and confident regardless of whether I am alone or with a man. Only I can be responsible for my own happiness. That said, one area that the book could be improved on is to give some advice on when a girl can give, albeit a little. Like when the guy waits too long to make his move, a little signal of interest could whet his appetite. Otherwise he may conclude the girl is not interested at all and give up.

Unfortunately people still need to read books like this!  ,14/08/2008 When I started reading this book, I thought that maybe it was not for me. Maybe I am already a bitch... I value myself and I would never put up with some of the situations the author describes as a no-no in her book. But as you progress towards the end of the book you start identifying with so many patterns that it is scary to think it might have been your fault the last time a relationship did not work! So, we value ourselves a lot in the beginning of a relationship, and then we get dangerously involved... is this our fault or the jerk's? What got me questioning this book is the fact that it is not worth getting involved with someone who won't love you for who you are. I am sorry, but pretending I am someone else for the rest of my life is not my idea of happiness! Instead, I prefer to push away those guys that love to hunt. My purpose in life is not to make some jerk's life challenging and fun. The mistake in this book is to sell the idea that you can transform a jerk into a prince by following simple rules of behaviour. People don't change, they grow, and that takes precious years that you may want to spend with someone else instead! Someone who has already grown up, perhaps? It's not that hard to find (and I recognize I am talking about men here)! The fact is, you can transform a jerk into a prince temporarily, and most likely in the beginning of the relationship while he is still trying to impress you... but he will return to his jerky way of being as soon as you marry him, so why bother? This book is all the way worth it, but has to be read with a critical eye. Instead of transforming that jerk into a prince, follow the author's advice to drive all the jerks away. And go get yourself a nice gentleman, will you?

I was ready to cancel the wedding...until I read this book  ,06/08/2008 My fiance and I hit a really rough patch. He was acting annoyed by my pressence, stopped wanting to be intimate and seemed tense and upset all the time. So I made the "nice girl" mistake by trying to be perfect for him -- cooking these huge, elaborate, expensive dinners, making sure the house was spotless, buying him little presents, etc. Nothing worked. I was convinced he had fallen out of love with me or was cheating. Out of desperation, I went to the bookstore and grabbed a stack of relationship books hoping for some insight. One of the ones I came across was, "Why Men Love Bitches". I read the chapter on nagging and realized that I complained A LOT to my fiance about EVERYTHING over and over again. I saw myself in that chapter and learned how I was pushing him away and nagging makes a woman come across as needy and unappealing. Also, the author explained that nagging is ineffective with both men and women because it makes the person being nagged feel like the nagger is trying to control them I bought the book and immediately followed the advice of that chapter. I took my nagging from a 10 to a .5 and gave my fiance a little space. I also stopped sweating the small stuff, like how normally I'd go off on him for leaving his boots in the bathroom The next day, my fiance did most of the things I normally nagged him about without asking (ie: making the bed, washing dishes, feeding the dog). Then, he came home from work early for the first time in a month and cooked me dinner. We were intimate twice the following night (HE intiated it for once, not me!) and his whole attitude toward me is more like it used to be when we first started dating. So yeah, this book may have a flaw or two in some people's eyes, but to me it's what you make of it. I think the best thing to do is read it and motify the advice to fit your particular situation. Thats what I did and it has been work

Only Touch the Subject  ,31/03/2008 I felt I already knew the answer, but I wanted to hear what the author had to say. The book only brushes over the real reason. It's a great book for someone that is totally clueless as why men really love bitches. I felt the book could have gone in more detail. This book only lightly touches the subject. I would not pay more than $5.oo for the book. The title is amazing and catchy. Some may think it's male bashing, but it's not. A good book for the clueless beginner to shed some light why they cant' be a good girl.

One of my Favorite books  ,01/02/2008 I used to work at Barnes & Noble and one day as I was shelving books, I noticed this book on the shelf. My first reaction was how could someone write this??? How could someone conceive that Men loved Bitches, this makes No Sense. However, I couldn't resist opening the book and flipping through some pages. To my amazement, it was filled with a vast amount of good advice and it made alot of sense. I couldn't help but buy the book, despite the funny looks I got from my co-workers at the front desk. I am glad I bought this book, and I believe the title had to alot to do with it getting my attention. Well, first of all let me explain to you that when the author used the word Bitch, she is not referring to a rude or abrasive woman. She is referring to a woman, who is sweet yet has confidence, goals, dignity, and has a backbone. The author describes the word BITCH as Babe in Total Control of Herself. This book is filled with alot of advice to women who want have a successful relationship. I love this book and I love the author's style of writing, she has the ability to offer important advice and put a funny spin on it that will make you want to continue reading. This is a book you will read and want to come back and reread. It's worth the money. And lastly let me state this book is not about playing games with man. This is about women knowing what their worth and not overcompensating. Most importantly it explains how a balance must be established and that a relationship must one in both people(give and take).On the other hand,a relationship where only one person does all the giving,just leads to the build up of resentment, which is always proves problamatic. It about women setting up their standards, and learning that they need to love and value themselves before someone else can do that for them. I hope you take the opportunity to enjoy this book as I have.

I couldn't put it down!  ,12/12/2007 This was the first of two books that I read regarding this subject. The other was "Why Men Marry Bitches". I was recently dumped for pretty much being the "nice girl" mentioned in this book. This book is awesome. It changed my thinking on how I interact with the opposite sex. I'm really not big on self-help books but I've already read it twice and have sections highlighted.

And She Laughs All The Way To The Bank...  ,20/08/2007 I was looking through the comments and found this. By Teri Marshal "Military Wife" (Phoenix, AZ) - See all my reviews This book should come with a coupon for Hagen Daas, because you're going to end up on the sofa eating comfort food and wondering what went wrong. I read this book. I laughed in all the right places, but then I made a terrible mistake. I took Sherry Argov's advice seriously. My marriage was good, but this book made me think I was getting shortchanged. So I took the leap and took control. Now I'm in marriage counseling and wondering if I'm going to be able to hang onto my husband. I did get one thing right, though. After eleven years of wonderful marriage, I managed to get my husband to call me a bitch. I'm trying to get him to believe that I'm in a midlife crisis. Because I can't bring myself to say that I destroyed a great relationship because of something that sounded good in a book. How incredibly tragic. This book that is like a booby-trap to get women to mess up any joy in relationships they might have - or in this case, had held in their hands - until they doubted themselves and looked into the glittering eyes of a narcissist. How sad that where this woman's relationship may be permanently injured by her being conned into taking the advice in this book. The author cares not. She laughs all the way to the bank and stops by Neiman Marcus for a new pair of Manolo Blahniks, secretly laughing at you the readers because true to her narcissistic personality, she 'neglected' to give you the whole truth, or fair warnings. But then she really thinks she is much better than you, and that you couldn't understand the subject of relationships anyway, which is a lie. The whole thing is designed for the sale, not to do any service for women or men. If you trust yourself, and be yourself, you will do much better. Enjoy the person your man is. Have communication and be friends. Laugh together. The

A very thought-provoking and helpful book  ,18/09/2007 I just finished reading this book, and am in the process of reading her other book, "Why Men Marry Bitches". I have to say that initially, like some other reviewers here, I was reluctant to read the book due to the title and the simple fact that I don't have much respect for so-called "girl guides". I agree that the title does a disservice to the book, although after having read it, I understand what the author means when she uses the word "bitch". I was afraid that this would be a book about being aggressive and demanding, but that is not the case at all. I am also an independent woman who is emotionally mature, but I must confess I have behaved too nicely many a time. If you read this book, please understand that it is meant to be humorous. Don't follow everything blindly (especially some of the jokey and outrageous advice). Use your own thinking. Like some people here, I don't think you should serve your date popcorn on the first date. But this doesn't 'mean that her advice isn't sound; she exaggerates of course, but what she means is, please don't bend over backwards for someone you barely know. I read some reviews here who claim that this book is about playing games, or that it says things that are too obvious, or that it teaches women to be abrasive. If you actually read the book you will see that she insists that a "bitch" is a woman who is nice, polite and gracious. She never, ever advises bitching and complaining; in fact she devotes a whole chapter to precisely why these tactics never work for women. Some negative reviewers insist that the book tells you to be someone else, and that you should be honest and open about what you want in a relationship. I completely agree with the latter; however, the book tells you to do the same thing. It shows you how to communicate with men on their level, without being too emotional; how to make them listen to you and how to get your point accross, and I repeat, NOT through bitching and complaining, but by

It didn't work on me.  ,08/12/2007 I was dating a woman who all of the sudden starting acting like she didn't care, that she just wasn't interested. I responded the way book said I would. The problem was that I actually cared about her, so when she seemed upset or uninterested I attempted to correct the situation. I guess this taught her a lesson - Act like a B*itch and get what you want. That didn't last long at all. A week went by and She finally got around to calling me to inquire as to why I hadn't called her. I told her politely and honestly that she seemed uninterested and I didn't enjoy spending time with her anymore, she just seemed to have no respect for me and was acting rather childish. Another week went by and she called to confess this book (which led me here), and to apologize. She was sorry and wanted things to "go back to the way they were". Too little, too late, too bad. She just proved herself to be selfish and manipulative (not to mention stupid for believing this crap). You can learn not to be selfish and manipulative, but you can't cure stupid. I told her it was deceitful behavior on the same level as lying. That if there were a problem with our relationship and she wasn't getting what she wanted, then she should have talked to me about it. We could have tried to work things out and if it was unworkable, we could try again or part ways civilly. Treating a man like crap as a means of conning him into getting what you want, is exactly what kind of foundation for a serious relationship? I told her that she succeeded in changing me, that was for sure. I went from someone who cared about her to someone that didn't give a damn. So in the spirit of making money by destroying relationships, I'll offer some advice. When the person you're in a relationship with enjoys your company and attempts to spend time with you - Act uninterested or b*tch your way into doing something you know for a fact he isn't going to enjoy. Sinc

Guys Are Chasing Me ! ! !  ,30/08/2007 I love this book. Another favourite new bestseller which I highly recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You If you are a smart woman and want handsome men to chase you, then buy both books!

Please read this book Carefully!!!  ,23/04/2008 I am surprised to see how many people are blind enough to ruin good relationships while using this book as the scap goat. This book is for you to respect yourself and your relationship. No where in this book does it say to disrespect your partner or take him for granted. I read this book on recommendation from a friend that said I remind her of the author. I agree with many points of Sherry Argov and respect what she has written. Her second book, Why men marry bitches also backs up her first book and is written with many hours of research...Interviewing MEN. For those of you who are bashing the book because it's "sick" or "stupid" or "ruined your relationship", YOU NEED TO RE-READ THE BOOK. Ms. Argov does not tell you to be stubborn and rude to your significant other. Also, if you're smart enough, you would know that you cannot change anyone else. You can only change yourself. And that is what your man responds to. If you are in a loving relationship and everything is going well, Why would you need to use Ms. Argov's advice anyway? Think about it before blaming anyone else. Please use your brains and love yourself for who you are. Everyone can tell when you are fake and trying too hard (too willing or too stubborn). So just be yourself, and don't take disrespect from anyone, men or women.

This book ROCKS! ! !  ,21/08/2007 Another new must read which I love and recommend - How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You Both books will change the way you date into positive way!

Great book!  ,25/05/2008 I've read it twice already and will keep it around for when I need a little reminder. I've recommended it to many friends.

Not recommended from this single woman  ,19/09/2008 I had a friend recommend this book, as she had heard other non-married women recommend it. I think it is pop psychology at it's worst and I like pop psych usually. If you are truly a doormat in all facets of your life, can't say no, then buy the book. If you are single, because you have focused on your career and have a limited dating pool then don't buy the book. If you like the book "The Rules" then again you might like it. I think dating as a grown up requires throwing out the rules, being honest and enthusiastic to meet new people. This book doesn't suggest that as a solution versus once again the single woman is told "it is all you." It could really be you, I don't know you ;-) The book is written in a satire format which is amusing, but I read about half of it and said enough. I do have a friend who I think maybe could use the book, but I am afraid she might take it literally. So for now it lies beside my bed and I probably won't finish reading it.

Men vs. Women?  ,03/10/2007 I bought this book a short while after getting out of an abusive relationship, thinking it would help me hold my own in any future relationships so the pattern of abuse wouldn't continue. This idea, however, backfired. What I found myself doing while reading this book was getting more and more angry at men. I understand that women do need to stand up for themselves in all areas of life. If anyone understands this, it's me. I don't, however, believe that it's a good idea to get embroiled in the battle of the sexes. I'd like to believe that not all men are bad, and that I can be happy in a future relationship without having to resort to any tricks or manipulation. While this book has some good advice (i.e., go out instead of waiting by the phone for him to call) I certainly wouldn't recommend it to anyone who has any resentment towards the opposite sex. There are some great books out there which are more healing, and less damaging. Try anything by Kathryn Alice or Kathy Freston, for example. I also recommend "Make Every Man Want You" by Marie Forleo. Good luck!

Best dating book ever, throw all the rest away  ,28/02/2008 Ok I am a woman who gives to much, trying to be nice. I read the book, But It works, its great and all my girlfriends have it. Pretty much tells you to be yourself and the right guy will pursue you. Its great!

great quick read! Advice is right on target for me  ,27/08/2008 This book is worth every penny. The advice is short, to the point. Her take is that you should not give up your own life for just any guy. You should be able to hold your own in a relationship and feel respected by the man you date. You are the prize. You are the jewel. Do not sell yourself short and accept just any treatment from just any guy you meet. Good luck in the dating world. Mary b

I wish I had read this book 20 years ago  ,11/08/2008 Thank you Sherry! This is one of the best books I have read about relationships with men. In fact, I wish I had read this book 20 years ago. This should be the official guide for all women (all ages) adventuring into the dating world. The younger you read this book the greater your chances of succeeding in your relationships with men. I am the typical nice girl. I am driven by emotions and when I meet a guy I like I see him as "the one" until proven otherwise. Therefore I automatically feel that I must give my 100% to that person. The problem with this approach is that giving your 100% too early in the relationship will make him feel as if he had it too easy and will make him go away looking for a better challenge. This book describes in a very simple and funny way something that we instinctively knew but couldn't put our finger on: These fantastic and interesting creatures called men are, very succinctly, "hunters" looking for their match... therefore women need to be the smart "strategist" prey. I always wondered why relationships with the guys I liked never worked out while the guys I was not interested in were always chasing me. After reading this book it is clear that the reason was ME. It was amazing reading some of the examples about the typical mistakes women make that will kill the sparks on a relationship. More than one time it felt like I was reading my own diary...Depressing. It made me feel stupid and ignorant but at the same time it opened my eyes. One note of caution: I have read some reviews stating that not all men are like the ones portrayed in this book, like if this book were about "jerks". This book is not about how "bad" men are or how "good" and mistreated girls are. I am pretty sure we all agree that inherent evil has nothing to do with sex. This book is about helping you understand basic rules of human nature and principles of relationships between sexes based on the fact that men and women are diffe

Great book with Fast Delivery  ,29/08/2007 This book is great good for laughs as well as a great insite on a typical mans mentality! The delivery of the book to my home by amazon was fast so i could enjoy the book alot sooner!

Good book for woman  ,13/08/2008 I absolutely love this book. I don't want to play game but guy always act mostly the same thing in relationship. So this book made me think what went wrong.

Wish I'd read it years ago!  ,04/02/2008 Though I've been happily married for 20 years, I was a dum-dum for most of my dating life and did all the "doormat" things that Ms. Argov talks about -- and got dumped over and over and over, never understanding why. Fortunately my husband likes "nice girls" and was happy to have a woman who gave her love freely and didn't play games -- but, alas, I think most men are more like Argov says, wanting the challenge, the chase, etc. and definitely devaluing you if you're too available. I think all hetero girls of dating age should read this! And it's funny to boot. The directions on faking an orgasm made me howl.

Mixed Feelings  ,26/07/2008 I have mixed emotions about this book. I wanted to give it two and a half stars, but since that can't be done, I very fairly gave it three. Yes, I agree we women should not allow ourselves to be doormats to the man in our lives. I also believe that we shouldn't be with a guy who would treat us that way in the first place. It's about respect, and if you truly love someone and they you, there'll be mutual respect there. Why Men Love Bitches seems to be a book about how to play games with men. Not something I really agree with. I don't want to be taken for granted by my man, but I don't want to have to always be a challenge to him either. If the relationship seems like too much constant hard work, is he really going to think it's worthwhile hanging around? I don't think so. While no one should be a doormat or be taken for granted in a relationship, I don't believe relationships should be based on playing games either - Not those types of games. It was an interesting book to read, but there are others on the subject I like better. Man Magnet: How to Be the Best Woman You Can Be in Order to Get the Best Man How To Keep Your Man: And Keep Him For Good

Absolute M-U-S-T Have!  ,25/10/2007 Every woman should read this book. Ladies, it's back to basics time. This books repeats everything your mother told, or should have told you, when you first started dating. There's a reason for this... the advice is great and it works. If you want to regain control of your dating life, feel good about yourself and stop waiting by the telephone, buy it. Another must have that you should not miss is How to be a Super Hot Woman: 339 Tips to Make Every Man Fall in Love with You and Every Woman Envy You Both books have great information that will be helpful for every woman!

Love it!  ,25/08/2007 I actually read this book because my therapist recommended it to me. I never realized I was such a "good girl" meaning that I allowed the man in my life to walk all over me. I am so glad and grateful to this book...I took my own power back and living my life for me and not my man. I highly recommend this bood!

Absolutely Great!  ,23/10/2007 I found this book by accident and gave it to my girlfriend when she was going through a bad breakup, and it put her right back on her feet! She raved about it so much that I just had to get one for myself and I absolutely LOVED it. IMPORTANT: No, this book is not about playing games, and if that's the only thing you learn from it, then you should read it more carefully with your brain lamp turned on. It's teaches you to be honest with yourself, to undestand what's important in life, and how to actualy BE happy. Oh and it's funny as hell!

Changed my life forever  ,15/04/2008 I recommend that every single women or dating woman on the face of this earth read this book. It has changed me forever! All mothers who have teenage daughters should give this book to their daughters it will make them think twice b4 they go chasing after some boy.

One of the Best  ,15/05/2007 Simply, this book is the BEST!!! I bought about this book for my girlfriends...and I laugh out loud (LOL!) while reading the book- like crazy by myself. You will enjoy this book and learn from it at the same time. I recommend this for single, dating or even married woman...it teaches you man's behaviour. Thank you Sherry!

I LOVE THIS BOOK  ,25/04/2008 this book was just wonderful! Really helps with confidence and I have mentioned it to many ladies I know!

Ignore the Title and the Naysayers...  ,20/10/2008 This book is not really about being a "bitch"; it's about *not* being a doormat (see subtitle). Sherry's message is to value yourself, and to let your behavior flow naturally out of that. So many women, single and married alike, will bend over backwards for a man, put up with rude and inconsiderate behavior, and act like he is the center of her world. A woman who values herself--a "bitch"--doesn't live like that, which means her man will value her more. Sherry wants women to "get a life," stop catering to men, and let themselves be pursued. And she writes with a great sense of humor! Much of the book is tongue-in-cheek, like the "recipes," and she encourages readers to have a sense of humor as well. My favorite part is about a booty call, that a woman who leaves in the middle of the night to go see a man is only missing one thing: a sign on the top of her car that reads, "We Deliver"! This book is a fun read. I gave it 4 out of 5 stars, because 5 has to be life-changing for me. This isn't life-changing but it is definitely excellent. I also highly recommend "The Nice Girl Syndrome" by Beverly Engel. You'll want to read both books more than once.

WOW!!!!!!  ,25/10/2008 I am a bit baffled that a MAN wrote that this book WORKED ON HIM. I can't believe it only got 4 stars. I have committed the cardinal sins described in this book. I've chased and chased and chased and he ran and ran and ran. This is an eye opener. Most women are taught that "you can catch more flies with honey." by being the "good girl." Well, I'm not trying to catch flies. We're taught early on to slave over a stove for him, dress in sexy lingerie, take pole dancing classes, etc. ALL in the effort to keep a man. Don't do it ladies. Don't!!! Read this book, you can do all the rest AFTER he falls for you. A man will not fall for the prettiest woman if she gives him her ALL on the 2nd date.

Babe In Total Control (of) Herself  ,26/01/2008 Anyone who says this book is about playing games etc needs to re-read it, this is not what it is about. It is about me and a lot of women I know, strong women who attract the men they want and then cant understand when they run a mile a few months/a year down the line. Its about not losing yourself when you enter into a relationship. Its about putting yourself first and only being with a man because he brings something to your life and not giving up your life and friends for a man. Its about being kind and gentle with a man but not being a doormat. I would also highly recommend Women Ain't Bitches (Most of the Time): Smart Moves for Angels Who Want to Succeed in Love and Life

Funny and So VERY True  ,06/06/2007 I agree that negative comments here are probably from people who don't get what the book is actually trying to tell you. It's telling you to love and take care of yourself first, not be a doormat. It's only when you love yourself, others see the confidence in you and are drawn toward you. Everything Argov says in this book about a doormat is so true because I was that doormat. I did everything she said a doormat did and my ex did everything she said guys do when you become a doormat. I don't have to read her book to learn not to be a doormat because after being a doormat, I now put myself first before others but at the same time, I am not rude and I don't use people. This is what the book is trying to explain to you. It's not trying to tell you to be lazy or cruel or be unappreciative. It's telling you exactly how to take care of yourself at the same time, be respectful.

Must Read Book  ,02/10/2008 Its a book every women will benefit from unlike many other books on the same subject...this book is simple, easy, clear, and right to the point. Simply I LOVED IT and read it twice :)

Beyond the Rules  ,12/11/2008 Argov goes beyond "the Rules" and dispenses some much-needed advice to a lot of women. There is a fine line between being in the driver's seat and allowing the man to believe that he is. It is not so much a matter of being in control as it is a matter of achieving a workable dynamic between the sexes. Argov delves into button-pushing and the things men do to test the mettle of women. Staying calm, cool, and collected is highly advisable, including in the board room at the office. Deep down most women know this, yet it can quickly go out the window when it seems that men "just don't get it", are tuning out, or are shutting down altogether as matters reach the meltdown stage. The author spares nothing as she reveals the tactics of the male player. It is better to cringe your way through this section than to stay uninformed and vulnerable. Argov's insights are empowering for women. Male players may not appreciate this, but for quality men that want workable relationships with women, it will ultimately benefit both sexes for women to digest and apply these premises.

A man's view on this book.  ,23/07/2007 All I have got to say is; it simply works. I will say that without a doubt. Guys are so used to "pushover" women that do almost whatever they want. As soon as girls go against the "grain" in the relationship and have they're say in thing then the guys' head starts to spin...like "what just happened?". It is so damn attractive no matter what a girl looks like. Good example, I worked with this girl. She could have easily been a model, she had all the physical qualities. We hung out for a few times, then I started noticing that she would call me everyday, she would wait for me to get out of work to make plans, she would bend over backwards. I had no idea what it was (at the time), but I just wasn't attracted to her, as I look back I KNOW the reason I wasn't attracted to her was cause she wasn't a challenge at all. THEN, there is this other girl I know. She is quite overweight, not really attractive at all. BUT...She has the confidence about her that is amazing, she never returned my call the same night, she always acted like she never even cared if we hung out...and it blew me away. I wanted her. The fact is. Some women women don't think they could be like that. But let me tell you. If you act like you don't care, then you really feel confident and you feel like you have the upper hand in the whole relationship. It'll change your whole look, mood, etc. Read the book, and if you apply these principles you will get more guys "hooked" to you then ever.

entertaining  ,01/10/2008 This is a hilarious book. There are so many truths that you can find out about yourself by reading it. I have to admit, there were times that I was so shocked at what I discovered about myself that at some point my jaw dropped!

Are you serious?!?!  ,02/08/2007 Chapter 2: Why men prefer bitches. Hey bitch, we don't. Stop suggesting women are either promiscuous or bitches just because you were promiscuous and no one gave a crap about you. Chapter 3: The Candy store- how to make the most of your feminine and sexual powers. Why don't you just say how to manipulate men with the use of your vagina. This kind of crap is just what women don't need to hear. Ever stop to think that just because this works in the short term that it is responsible for major problems long term? Chapter 4: Dumb like a fox- How to convince him he's in control while you run the show. So your great advice for building a relationship is to purposely be deceptive and an intentional exterior idiot. Great advice. Chapter 7: The other team's secret playbook- Fifteen things that turn men off. OH you have got to be kidding me. How about chapters 1-6 where you explain how to be a worthless vagina? That's 6 right there. (sub-chapter) - Ten ways to tell whether a man is in love. How the hell would he really know? You've just told women how to be anything BUT their real person. Even if he is in love he is in love with a facade. God you suck. It's this kind of book that sends me into a blind rage, I mean really. This is the crap that they feed women. This is the most unhelpful and relationship ruining crap I've ever read. Any book that tries to change a person in order to fulfill a relationship is fundamentally flawed. YOU CAN NOT CHANGE PEOPLE. And that includes yourself. The best you can do is understand everyone involved and put yourself in the best situation you can.

the good and the bad  ,02/01/2008 For the most part I liked this book. I love the sarcastic title, I think she's trying to redefine what a bitch is, however to me, a bitch will always be someone that hurts others on purpose. I really loved her message which is what I took with me. Don't be a doormat, have your own life, live your life because life doesn't start when you meet that great guy. However, I disliked the dumb fox chapter. I don't want to pretend to be a dumb chick for any guy. She gave one example where the girl lied to her husband about getting a maid, the girl told her husband she was getting her once a month, when she was actually getting her once a week. I can relate because I don't like to do housework and I don't like to cook. Its just not within me, in that case they should have just talked about it. In a relationship, I want to be able to speak my mind freely. I don't want to hide that I have groceries delivered or that I have a maid come in if I choose to do that. In another chapter she goes on to say that you shouldn't nag. I agree. Nagging is like being a dude's mom. Not interested. I ain't his mama. She does give an example where several women get manipulative to get a guy to move and do whatever she wants to get done. Like asking the single dad across the street to carpool their kids. That's just not cool. Come on. I also don't want to act like a dumb little girl who knows nothing just to make a guy feel good. No way. I want to be the girlfriend who makes the guy feel good without having to dumb myself down. So yeah I agree with some things that she said though I don't think its anything groundbreaking. Just some common sense stuff that women need to hear now and again. The rest I'm going to chuck just because it doesn't make sense. You have to do that with anything you come across in life. She's also right about having financial independence. This is something that I had to learn the hard way. It doesn't matter

I'm guilty  ,12/07/2008 I am guilty of being one of those women the "Nice Girl." Too clingy, too nice, always changing my plans to accomodate.This book has helped me to see where I've made mistakes and how to easily remedy them and gain my man's respect and attention! If you have felt like a "doormat" you have to read this book. Another great book that I recommend is How to Snag a Guy and Keep Him Hooked: 99 Ways to Make Him Ache for You Both books are worth buying!

Interesting Perspective  ,17/11/2007 The reason I gave this book 4 stars is that it is extremely funny. In the first few pages you read a recipe for making popcorn, even down to using a spatula and potholders to get it out of the microwave because its so hot. After making this delicious dish, your man will not expect you to cook again. It was hillarious. There was also a lot of helpful tips from experience in the reading material. The thing that I didnt like is it made women seem superior. I am a woman myself, and we would like to think we are the most splendid creatures, but I never want to think of myself as better than him because we are equal creatures. I guess I am what she refers to as "nice" and some points of that will change and perhaps my relationship will continue to grow. But there are also points of ignoring him, if you lose him, someone else will come along, remain strong, all that stuff. I wont exactly beg him and plead with him to stay, but at the same time I wont paint my nails as he packs either. It was a great book, I just wouldnt recommend all of the tips it has to offer.

A must read for all the ladies out there!!!  ,26/06/2007 I am so glad I came across this book on Amazon. It helped me redefine my true self, stand my ground, and relate to men on a whole new level.

I needed this book 20 years ago!!!  ,01/08/2008 Not necessarily bitchy is what men want, but they oddly enough don't like to walk all over their women. (Coulda fooled me!!). I'm working with this. Doesn't seem to make any difference in the men in my life if I kowtow to them or assert myself. If I kowtow I'm needy, if I'm assertive I'm a bitch. Basically it's telling me what I should have known all along. As women towards men, we are damned if we do, damned if we don't.

MUST HAVE!  ,12/09/2007 Its every womans must have bible! Hide it under your mattress...not necessarily a coffee table friendly book unless its girls night. This book has saved all of my future relationships! Best kept secret since He's just not that into you. Loved every detail of the book and her sense of humor keeps you reading all throughout the night!

GOOD FOR ONE AND ALL  ,09/01/2008 BELIEVE IT OR NOT ... AS SAVVY AS I THOUGHT I WAS ... JEEZ ... I WAS GUILTY OF SO MANY OF THESE DONT'S WHEN I USED TO CARE. THE TRIP OF IT IS ... I GAVE IT TO MY NEPHEWS AND THEY LOVE IT BECAUSE SOMETIMES MEN CAN BE DOORMATS AS WELL. I GUESS WOMEN ARE DOORMATS AND MEN ARE CARPETERIA! XOXOOXOX

A great guide for improving your self-esteem ...  ,18/02/2008 It's not about being a bitch, but about looking out for yourself, and NOT being a doormat. Simple theory, but something we women seem to forget. A must-read for women, and a re-read to remind us that we need to have our own lives FIRST and foremost. It's not about playing games. It's about demanding respect.

Best Advice Ever!  ,04/04/2008 I totally don't think this book is about being a b***h. It is about respecting yourself, having your own life, and not sacrificing yourself just to make a man happy. I read it, and a girlfriend of mine read it, and no joke...in 7 months we were both engaged. I wish I had this book years ago instead of dealing with heartbreak after heartbreak. This book is more about finding the right guy, and showing him you are an independent, intelligent woman, and not Suzy homemaker that he can walk all over.

Just buy it already  ,02/11/2008 I admit I bought this book because it had a funny title and the reviews said it was worth it. I think for a woman who is confused about men, relationships, the way men act and maybe even herself - this is a prefect read. Its a bit over the top with its generalizations at times, say if you enjoy men who aren't uber-masculine. But I think overall it has some eye opening points. While reading this book I discovered so many things about myself and at least ten things or you could call them mistakes I was making in the dating scene and always coming off super needy. I didn't even know I was doing it!! This book is easy to read and matter of fact, its funny, truthful and gets down to the essence of personal power and holding your own in a relationship. Just buy it already, you'll be glad you did.

Lots of good advice  ,08/06/2007 I thought this book had a lot of good advice. I realized where I was going wrong in a lot of places. But, you also have to be yourself! Somebody who's meant for you won't care if you play these games or not, because they will love you for who you are. Still, some of the tricks may be helpful.

Gets it right every time!  ,21/08/2007 This book is very informative and also very intune with what is really going on. She hits it right on the head every time. Not for you, if you don't want to be enlightened. Great book.

This book helped MY confidence  ,08/09/2007 I resisted this book for years simply because of the title. To be honest, I feel that the author does a huge disservice to herself by using the word "Bitch" in her title. My first instinct was to immediately reject this book because by nature (and as my friends will attest), I'm known as my very positive, easy going, sweet, and loving individual. I try hard to be considerate of everyone around me (male or female), and quite frankly, I shy away from the negative bitch types that I come across in real life. I was also tired of all those dating books which told you what to do and what not to do in the dating world. They silently infuriated me because I didn't want to live my life against a list of actions to do and avoid. However, after receiving an effusive recommendation from a close friend of mine (who's also a very positive person), I decided to throw away my caution read this book and it has quite literally changed my outlook on life. Let me first clear up a misconception that was my own: This book does not tell women to change themselves in order to get a man. It does not tell you to be negative, house an attitude, or think that you're better than the world around you. The simple message I came away with after reading this book was that you must BELIEVE in yourself and your unique characteristics, and that in turn, will draw in the RIGHT man for you. My biggest problem in the dating world was my confidence and this book helped me recognize this. Like so many women in their early 30s, I really wanted to be in a relationship and when a guy would show me attention, the first emotion I'd feel after the initial excitement was an anxious one. My pride aside, I quite frankly saw him as my "savior from the loneliness single world" (since so many of my friends were getting married), and I wanted to do everything in my power to keep him. And what I'm discovering is that this attitude is exactly what will pus

Worldly advice, worldly results!  ,25/07/2008 I've actually not read the book but, I was reading some of the introductory information here on this site and I was intrigued. I understand where the author is coming from and for the most part, I think the principles she provides make sense to a point. Just remember that there are a lot of immature people out there who are "users" both men and women. Find someone who is as passionate about you as you are for them. Someone who is mature and looking for a relationship with some content. This will eliminate a lot of the game playing. Take time to get to know someone before getting into a relationship. Relationships are like investments. If you just throw your money around pretty soon it loses value. Long-term minded people are careful and take their time. I agree with some of the other people who have commented about clinginess and that sort of thing. If you do that, you need to wake up. As much as you can examine the other person to see if you want to be with them just remember the coin has a flip side. Look at yourself and the person you are interested in or dating from an overall perspective and see what improvements can be made. There is so much worldly advice on relationships, kind of like dieting, that it is confusing but, I believe that you attract others who are similar to you. If you're someone who sleeps around you'll attract the same. If you're nice you'll probably attract someone nice. Birds of a feather flock together! I agree that men are more attracted to a strong independent woman who knows where she is going but, is still feminine and kind. Whatever type of woman you are, you shouldn't (as a single) rely on a man to come along and take care of you. Go out and get your career and success. Anyway, maybe I'll read the book for kicks!

MUST READ  ,29/07/2008 This is a MUST read for every girl!!! The title catches your attention but what's written in this book, every girl must follow. There are too many "nice" girls out there don't know the truth. And the truth is in this book. It says exactly how it is. It's not about being a bitch, but just holding your own. Two thumbs up!!!! :)

What the f%*?  ,06/05/2008 Why the author keep using the word "Dumb Fox"? It's quite unnecessary. It ruins the whole structure of the book. She can easily say the smart girl. Yack ...

A Must have for the Single Woman  ,12/11/2008 This book is amazing. Once I read it, I passed it on to the other single women in my life. The techniques in this book really do work. I highly reccomend this book to anyone, i liked it so much that i plan to read it again.

What men really want  ,17/02/2008 The alternate titles of this book could be "What men really want," or "Appreciate yourself and he will appreciate you too," But it wouldn't sell. This is NOT a book about games or manipulation. It's about creating and maintaining chemistry in relationships as new as 10 minutes and as old as 90 years. This is a very honest book that women need to read. This isn't a bag of tricks. This is old fashioned advice that simply takes into account what men really want and what women need to remember. This is the sage advice your great grandmother gave to your grandmother. Men want a woman to remain interesting and women need to remember to value themselves for who they are. That's the real message in this book. Argov words it in a way that is marketable, and using the word 'bitch' gets your attention. She explains what men find interesting in women and how that goes hand in hand with a woman valuing herself for exactly who she is and not comparing herself to media generated ideals and unrealistic standards. A man really wants a woman with a spine, according to this book. He wants a woman who is comfortable in her own skin and values herself. This book covers, without explaining, how women are socially conditioned to try to please men in ways that only please them for a few minutes. The first 8 pages of this book were very off-putting to me. I found them insulting because they describe a kind of profoundly insecure woman I have never been. (I'm the fiercely independent type) I was flipping through the pages of the book at a friends house, wondering if I should read it. But I slammed the book down by page 8, disgusted. After many months and more encouragement from her to read the book, I gave in and bought it. I nearly slammed the book down by page 8 again because I was so insulted. But because I PAID for this book, I read on. By page 10 I was interested. By chapter 2, I was hooked. Argov got my attention because she started

Love It!  ,20/01/2008 I loved this book! It absolutely told me what I did wrong in my marriage for 7 years. I am now single and it has helped me stand up for myself and stop catering to everyone else. Not only am I more respected, I am more sought after as well. It's amazing. I feel better about myself and I'm not as worn out doing things for every one else. I reccommend this book to any woman not just for dating but for life in general.!!!

Thank everything that is good in this world for Sherry Argov.  ,16/11/2008 Wow. This book changed. my. life. And NOT because it helped me catch a man. To the contrary.. it made me open my eyes and realize that I was treating having a man as the be-all end-all of my existence. It made me realize I needed to focus on MYSELF and making myself happy. And only after I loved myself and had a life of my own, would a man feel he could be with me. She's a very smart woman. I recommend this book VERY much.

good advice for the already married too  ,28/10/2008 This book contains everything I've had to figure out for myself in 6 years of marriage - I wish I'd had it from day 1. It's not about manipulation and "trickery" to get a man to do things - it is about how to subtly show him with your actions when you are unhappy - or happy - with the way you're being treated, in a way that will get him to respond. It works. I've read other relationship books (Mars/Venus) that suggest you discuss everything, which is a prescription for antagonism and a bad relationship. This book teaches you to communicate with a man in a way that works - by not talking, nagging, or pleading. Get it.

Best relationship book I EVER read NO QUESTION!!  ,30/08/2007 I have bought 5 copies of this book (becuase I kept giving them away to friends)I have also maintained my relationship now for almost 4 years which is a huge record for me.I was insecure, whiny and always wondering why men left me? DUH!!Yes it is manipulative but it WORKS!Consider if you will that all men are natural hunters and although they will spend all day to shoot a deer , not one would be attracted to a dead deer thrown on their doorstep!!In fact they would probably be angry! Same applies to women-it doesn't matter how pretty you are -if you are insecure and throw yourself at a man he will place a low value on you, because you have already told him what you are worth.This book tells you in no nonsense language how to BEHAVE until you realize your worth. If you truly want to see advanced manipulation read "The Art of Seduction" It is truly cruel to the point of almost evil.Sherry's book is realistic and helpful.

What I wish I had learned in school...  ,14/10/2008 For years, I always acted like a "nice" girl and wondered why guys used me, munipulated me, and overall treated me like a doormat. After reading this book, I understood the importance of "playing the game" to weed out the losers and find the man of my dreams. The truth is, a guy who is really into a girl will go the extra mile and court her. And I learned how to protect myself by maintaining a certain amount of aloofness and confidence. Some girls learn this naturally, others like me have to read about it. : ) I think some of the negative reviews come from people who didn't read more than the title and the first few pages, or never had to deal with, or were mistreated by, a selfish guy. Maybe they already knew how to take care of themselves or knew what they were doing when it came to dating. I learned a lot about relationships, courting, and proper behavior from this book, and I am so grateful for it. My friend was the one who recommended this book to me. She said, "everything I want to tell women is in here!" She has guys wrapped around her pinky, and her fiance is wonderful. They have a passionate, in-love relationship, and she got to that point because she knows how to handle herself and doesn't get attached to losers. She will only take the utmost respect. I think this book teaches you how to get it from your partner.

Everyone loves a bitch!  ,10/09/2008 What this book is really about is being strong and not letting some random guy walk all over you. It's not necessarily about being a bitch, but more about being assertive and not some push-around. Every woman should take the time to read this one, along with another: Man Magnet: How to Be the Best Woman You Can Be in Order to Get the Best Man. Combining both, I've found I am A LOT happier in my dating life. Good luck.

Changed my dating life!  ,05/11/2007 Just got my book a week and a half ago and I admit I was a bit skeptical because I believe in playing mindgames. This is the first book of its kind that I've ever bought and I don't think I'll need to get another. This book is great. The suggestions are practical and simple and I'm already seeing results! This book is a must read for any woman who's too nice and feels as if she's being taken for granted! This is not about being mean - it's about having dignity, a healthy self-concept and self-worth and being feminine without feeling like you're being a maid, mother or a doormat.

Games, Games, Games  ,09/05/2007 This book does what every piece of bad chick lit does - it promises one thing, then completely contradicts itself by giving us another. It says 'Why men like women who stand up for themselves' but then doesn't really tell you to stand up for yourself. Instead, it tells you to run around in circles playing games; making the man chase you. This serves only to make us end up with guys willing to chase, which are usually not the ones we want chasing us to begin with. Even if something isn't bothering you or if things are going along well, you should play a game by making it seem like it is bothering you or things aren't going well, to keep the guy on his toes and make him still want you. Yuck! This isn't about becoming a strong woman; it's about becoming weak, manipulative pain. This book will make you become exactly what you don't want to be - the woman guys love to sleep with and dump the next day. For some fantastic insight into how to be in the kind of relationship you want to be in and lots of insight into exactly how a guy thinks and interprets our actions, read God Is a Woman: Dating Disasters. It is excellent. Incidentally, it is also by a comedian and much funnier than this so-called 'hilarious' book, which this isn't.

Good for Single Women  ,23/05/2008 I really liked this book but I think it would have been more helpful if I wasnt in a year long live in relationship. This seems better suited for a single woman starting a relationship or looking to have fun, there wasnt much advice for woman who are in long term relationships or woman who live with their spouse, but overall so far some of the techniques have worked.

EXACTLY! Good for getting or keeping a guy!  ,25/01/2008 Exactly! He likes you the way you are - don't change, unless you've been constantly changing for him, then SLAP yourself and BE yourself and enjoy YOUR life, not the life you hope to bring to him to make him happy and not yourself. Life is SHORT. Why would you want to live any other way? You aren't his call girl and when's the last time YOU had an O? This is YOUR LIFE TOO. And, as Sherry says, he likes you better when he has to chase you. Even the most beautiful girl will lose a guy if she chases him (by doing everything for him). BORING! Of course maintain yourself. But be there for yourself first, and do stuff for yourself first so you don't have to keep expecting him to be everything to you. Let him show you who he is, and see if that's what you need. Sherry's book is awesome because it makes a woman feel GOOD about herself without actually harming a man. She explains things like when you complain on and on, he hears blah blha balsh... and YOU become the PROBLEM that he tries to avoid. This book is great for keeping things fresh in a marriage too. WE so often forget to keep dating our spouses. NOT GOOD! Keep the fire burning. This book is a great little update. And if you DON'T have a guy, quit trying so hard and go do things that you enjoy... and who knows... since you'll be enjoying yourself anyways, who cares if there is or isn't a cute eligible man at your next destination... you're having fun anyways! And a happy gal, is a sexy gal! Be good to yourself and the rest will follow. I've recommended and purchased this book for several friends. It is funny too!

May work on an average frustrated chump but not high value guys..  ,08/01/2008 If I ever sniff out a chick following a "planned strategy" or seemingly intentionally being disinterested, she gets tossed. No guy with any type of game should accept any drama. For you girls that rock the boat, thats the easiest way to fall out of it or get kicked out of it. Nice try, but girls need to trust their instincts, not the advice of an author no self respecting guy would even date.

Huh?  ,11/08/2008 Let me get this striaght. If a woman is acting like a total bitch toward me, that means she LIKES me? My mind is officially blown. I'll bet women who take this book seriously are perfect for guys who take "The Game" by Neil Strauss seriously. I just hope I'm not the only single person left in this world who just wants to have a nice relationship with a nice person and not have play a bunch of silly mind games.

Sang23  ,08/11/2008 This works, this works, this works!!!! It does manipulate people, but it makes the guy your dating do what he's supposed to be doing in the first place. In a world where men think they set the rules and have you waiting by the phone, this book is a bright shineing light! You don't have to apply all the books princples in the exact way the author chooses to express them, but these are guildlines, RULES! Stick to them and couple these rules with the famous "He's Just Not That Into You" book, and you'll be running the relationship show in no time! HOLLA

GREAT BOOK  ,18/10/2007 The first couple of pages actually made me say "holy crap" out loud. Those couple of pages summerized my life!! I can honestly say that this book is a must read for any woman!! I wish I had read this book 10 years ago when I started dating, it would have saved me so much agony!! I will certainly be giving this book to my daughter, so she will not make the same mistakes I did!! YOU MUST READ THIS BOOK:o)

Unless you're into petty mind games and want your relationship to fail, don't read this book.  ,04/05/2008 This book is basically a catty manual for women with low self-esteem who don't know how to communicate their wants and needs when in a healthy relationship. It gives advice on how to sneakily manipulate a situation to your advantage, rather than telling you how to best fix it in a manner that both people in a relationship can understand and are okay with. An example from the book: your boyfriend is too lazy to fix something around the house. The author recommends that you get another man to do it, so that your boyfriend feels threatened enough to do it and jumps to the task. Rather than, say.. telling your boyfriend that you find it disrespectful that he won't help out and asking him again to do it for you, so that way he actually understands why his girlfriend is upset and knows to have more respect in the future. Yes, the women outlined in this book really are b*tches. They are playing mindgames in order to gain attention from their spouses. Instead of being honest about how they feel, they are being taught that the only way to handle a situation is to pretend you don't care, or to be mean about it, or to ignore it altogether until he crumbles at the knees in confusion, hurt and defeated. That's not okay and it's a recipe for disaster. Of course, the author makes it look like it's okay to abuse a man's emotions because so what? They're all jerks anyway, right? No. And that's the entire mindset projected in this book. It's practically spilling off the pages. Men are not mindreaders, and they're not perfect. They need to be told when something is wrong, instead of tricked into fixing it without ever knowing what was wrong or why. Women should not have to be vindictive and passive-aggressive to get their relationships to work/their boyfriends to care about them. Basically, everything in this book is unhealthy and teaches all the wrong lessons.. a "dreamgirl" is not a b*tch who plays with people's emo

Unfortunate title but a very good book  ,12/07/2008 Though this book has a crass title, the author has an incredible sense of the immutable, unalterable laws of human attraction. Her writing style is such that you can't help cringing as she describes the women who act so desperate, or thinking how cool they are when they act confident. The truth is, this book isn't about "male vs female" psychology. It's about powerful, fundamental truths that are the same for both sexes. These truths can be summed up in a few principles: - Everyone wants to feel lucky to be with whomever they're with - No one wants a clinging vine The way to get there is to: - Be cool, but not angry - Never try to force or control If you know the true meaning of the word, then "Blessed are the meek" says the same thing. The great thing about this book is it gives you a true feel for how unattractive, or attractive, any of us can be. If you're one who keeps making the same mistakes in relationships and ending up on the short end, read this, and you'll see yourself as your intendeds see you. You'll also see how you will be seen if you play by these rules. You may as well accept and play by these principles - you'll never beat them. Or you can save yourself the money and just ask yourself, in times of weakness, "Does the person I yearn for act like he or she feels LUCKY to be with me?" If the answer's "Not so much", you better do something fast to turn it around, or they'll be gone. The good news is you really can do something about it. You CAN act cool even if you're caving inside. A book I like even better than this one is called "Love Tactics: How to Win the One You Want". This book is also about these fundamental truths, with things you can do to turn a bad situation around in a hurry. It also covers more situations and is more helpful in letting you know what you can actually do in these situations where you're not getting respect. T

A two and a half from me  ,24/04/2008 I probably wouldn't go out all the way to bash this book, but it doesn't mean I completely agree with everything the author says. If one follows her advice literally, it must be one hell of a tiring mental task you put yourself up with each day. This book might be suitable for the nearly- psychotic or the ultra-obsessive, but then if you are, get yourself proper treatment might be a better option. Her point of the entire book(as well as many other similar books) is: be strong. It is good. Be strong so in return men will stay and protect. Well it doesn't make sense, does it?

A MUST HAVE!  ,27/03/2008 This book, along with her "Why Men Marry Bitches" are both must haves! The advice is honest and extremely useful. I had been going through a rough break-up and this booked helped so much! It made me realize what I did wrong and that he WAS NOT the right man anyway! I wish I would have found if a year earlier! Great Advice!

A MUST READ for confused women everywhere!  ,07/07/2008 I actually discovered this book while searching the bookstore for something else. I ABSOLUTELY reccomend it to any women who is sick of dealing with the games men play and who want to change the way they react. A friend bought it, and shared it with me. We were AMAZED by some of the things that we have read and have since moved onto "Why Men Marry Bitches" which is another work of art. Sherry Argov obviously knows what she is talking about here and gets much of the imformation right from the hourses mouth! It was a fun read too! No doubt you will find yourself calling your other single friends to share your incredible insites with them as well!

It's about female empowerment!!  ,09/09/2008 After reading Man Magnet: How to Be the Best Woman You Can Be in Order to Get the Best Man, I was on the lookout for more books about female empowerment, and, boy did I find it in this one! It's not about being mean, it's about getting what you want out of life and not sacrificing yourself in the process. A total must-read, along with "Man Magnet"!

:)  ,08/07/2007 This book is great teaches you how much worth you are compared to anybody else and makes you reavaliate your relationships with friends and boyfriends...value yourself and everyone else will follow your actions and react accordingly

You've got to buy this book !!!  ,31/08/2008 This is the BEST book on relationships I've ever read. I wish it was written 30 years ago. I made most of the mistakes Sherry writes about. If this book was around I could have saved myself a lot of heartache. I flipped through one of my co-worker's copies and went right home and ordered both her books. I read it over a rainy weekend, and couldn't put the book down. Buy a copy for yourself, your best friend and your Daughter.

good advice  ,23/12/2007 the title might be a little harsh ....but I found the advice inside refreshing and honest ...I loved the book ! I would highly reccomend for all the single gals out there looking for mr right ....good tips for winning his heart :-)

Rather Misandristic  ,07/06/2008 A rather misandristic selection of "solutions" and surveys, masquerading as a self-help guide for women.